How to teach children we rise by lifting others

We do indeed …we rise by lifting others

  we rise by lifting others

I learned long ago that in lifting others up, supporting them, cheering them on and helping them we also rise. This is a lesson I want my children to know  and to understand deep in their hearts, In giving of themselves they are not draining themselves or losing something, in fact it is the opposite, in giving you also receive and we all rise.

To teach my children this I encourage their giving. Children often learn best by experience.

Just before Christmas my son decided he wanted to gift food to the support centre next to his cubs unit. We called them up and asked what food they would like and left for the supermarket armed with a big list. My son worked out the costings (we had a budget) and began his shop.

An older lady giggled when she saw me piling pot noodles in my trolley. I think she thought I was a rather odd mother (we did have  a lot). ‘Like pot noodles do you?’ she asked me. I thought she looked a little disapproving. I told her what we were doing and she nodded.  As we went down the next aisle we heard this little voice shouting out ‘excuse me dear,’…she has followed us and  pressed  £2  into my sons hands to ‘get them something from me’. It really warmed my heart, this tiny old lady and my normally mischievous son united in helping.

Lovely.

He normally moans about shopping but not that day. We piled up the car and came home then packed food boxes and went delivering. The support unit were so grateful it was humbling. He was a tad overwhelmed but I swear my son  was as happy that day as he was on  Christmas day.

His food parcels were donated to The Friary drop in in Nottingham who offer free advice, health and support services to vulnerable people who are often without food or shelter. A wonderful charity indeed.

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We rise by lifting others.

My daughter chose to sell stories she had specially written and cakes and biscuits she had decorated for her giving project. She wanted to raise £30 for Sightsavers, which is the price of a sight saving operation

people39million

people around the world are blind

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of this can be cured or prevented

Sightsavers are amazing and need a lot of funding to achieve their aim of curing all preventable blindness.

My little girl wanted to do her bit. She got up at 6am on the day of the ‘story and cake sale’ and set it all up before she pottered off to school. I hosted her little event and popped it on Facebook too and she raised £90 in total through her sales. The government were matching Sightsavers funding at the time so essentially her hard work and creativity resulted in 6 sight restoring  operations. When I fetched her from school that day her smile of joy lit up the playground and it made me cry to see she was so happy to have helped.

We rise by lifting others

So they are learning this lesson, my lovely children, and it is serving as a reminder to me as I often forget and get a bit lost in my own busy-ness and moaning.

I even made a little plate this week so we see the words often.

we rise

Children do what we do not what we say, so we need to show them how we give too,share it with them and  celebrate it.

Let’s all rise.

 

 

 

 

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25 Comments

  1. January 19, 2015 / 6:48 am

    So true. We need to raise our children in this spirit – or what is the future going to look like?

    • January 18, 2015 / 7:25 am

      Bless you Annie…not every day I’m afraid!

    • January 16, 2015 / 2:34 pm

      I know Penny what a sweetheart!

  2. January 16, 2015 / 2:05 pm

    You’re so right, there is nothing like the feeling of having helped someone else! You have very wonderful children! x x
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    • January 16, 2015 / 2:34 pm

      I do Mary, I really do.x

  3. January 16, 2015 / 1:06 pm

    That’s brilliant, so sweet and kind. I did a few foodbank drops before Christmas but you’ve inspired me to talk to the girls more about it and take them with me next time, thanks!

    • January 16, 2015 / 2:34 pm

      Ah lovely and yes will be fab to get the girls involved

  4. January 16, 2015 / 12:30 pm

    Becky I think it is an important lesson that we need to teach children. I am reading a book about givers and takers and have been reading bits out to my children as I think it is skill they can use with friends, people they dont know and later on in life.
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    • becky
      January 16, 2015 / 12:32 pm

      Absolutely Na..that book sounds FAB!

  5. January 16, 2015 / 12:11 pm

    I love this post Becky, so true. L spent Tues eve telling her friend he had to believe in himself and he could play tennis. I have been reminding her to tell herself that too. I love the way you give them chances to really lift people who need it – amazing life lessons. The plate is gorgeous too!
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    • becky
      January 16, 2015 / 12:32 pm

      So sweet of little L obviously had a great teacher!

  6. January 16, 2015 / 11:59 am

    This is so lovely. Nathan loves helping others and is looking forward to getting involved in some more local charity activities with me this year. This is wonderful and makes so many memories for them as well which they can carry with them as they grow.
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    • January 16, 2015 / 12:14 pm

      Your so right Vicky memory making stuff

  7. January 16, 2015 / 11:41 am

    Your post just gave me goose-bumps Becky! How absolutely wonderful! I love this idea and will work to do something with my children as well. Brilliant!

    Thank you for sharing with Embrace Happy!

    Karin xx
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  8. January 16, 2015 / 11:31 am

    Lovely, lovely post- the world needs more of this attitude. Love your son for his thoughtfulness and love the old lady who chased after to donate her bit too! A really uplifting post xx
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    • becky
      January 16, 2015 / 11:36 am

      Ah Sonya I agree the world does need more of this! It’s a win -win and I like those!

  9. January 16, 2015 / 11:04 am

    Oh my goodness Becky, this post has made me all emotional. What a wonderful thing for your children to do! Amazing life lesson.

    I also love that the disapproving looks turned into admiration too!
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    • January 16, 2015 / 11:09 am

      Thankyou for commenting Donna The lady and the pot noodles made me a bit emotional! It was one of those ‘moments to cherish’

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