Why Loyalty Matters

Loyalty is a quality that means a huge deal to me.

I was raised by a mother who was endlessly loyal, steadfast and reliable. You could be certain she would love you and be there for you no matter what. It is an absolute gift to be bought up with such surety. It has made me the confident person I am today.

I have always known beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was much loved. I so hope my children know that too.




Probably because of how I was raised loyalty has always been a quality that I have had in abundance and one I tremendously value. When others haven’t had it I have felt both surprised and hurt.

For me being loyal is part and parcel of loving.

Both my parents (who I absolutely adored) are no longer here. Friendships are really key to my sense of security and family. I am blessed to have a some loyal supportive friends who I have know forever and who uphold me. Other friends who I haven’t known quite so long have been pretty amazing too.

Since Christmas my life has altered a great deal. I have a lot of physical limitations now .  I was always the lively, strong, enthusiastic robust one. Lately I have been emotional, sometimes angry and often fearful.

It is a form of loss and despite trying my best to stay positive and grateful for my children, my writing , my life.  I am struggling.

Loss is hard for people to bear, as is change. Not just for  me but for  other people too.  People I love have stepped back. But those who love me have stepped forward and stepped up.

Phone calls, homemade meals on the doorstep, flowers shoulders to cry on, encouraging  talks, sticking with it, asking about endless hospital visits, messages of support, checking in,  lifts to the hospital, DVDS and books to distract me, regular visits, listening, energy, love and hugs. Mopping up tears, creative ideas, walking slowly by my side. Many, many cups of coffee (and a good few cakes.)

The loyalty of my friends continues to astound me and I am beyond grateful.

There is nothing I have needed more.

Thank you.

My important word this week is most definitely LOYALTY

The Reading Residence



  1. March 15, 2014 / 9:33 am

    You have had such a lot to put up with recently. I am so glad you have lovely loyal friends to stand by you and prop you up in times of need. It also says something about what kind of lovely person you are too though don’t you think? Emma 🙂
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    • March 16, 2014 / 8:17 am

      so kind Emma x

  2. March 15, 2014 / 8:07 am

    So happy you have people around to help you. They sound lovely. I love the way you are trying to find positives in such a hard situation. I’m sure the positivity (and cake) will help you recover.
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    • March 16, 2014 / 8:17 am

      Thankyou lovely

  3. March 15, 2014 / 3:39 am

    What a beautiful, from-the-heart post, Becky. I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time at the moment, but it’s it amazing how true friends can make things so much easier. Big love to you xxx
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    • March 16, 2014 / 8:17 am

      Thank you Ruth xx

  4. March 14, 2014 / 9:39 pm

    What a lovely post, and I couldn’t agree with you more. I hope things get better, and that you continue to receive such amazing support Zx
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  5. March 14, 2014 / 9:24 pm

    You know who your true friends are when things aren’t going right. I do hope you find the strength to face up to whatever it is that’s troubling you. Good luck x #wotw
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  6. March 14, 2014 / 9:23 pm

    What a beautiful gift your parents gave you and how gracefully you take it now when struggling. I hope you continue to get better and than the support and loyalty you have found remains.
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    • March 16, 2014 / 8:18 am

      Thank you x

    • March 14, 2014 / 6:21 pm

      Thankyou my dear friend

  7. March 14, 2014 / 1:52 pm

    a wonderful post demonstrating so well why this word is so important to you.
    i appreciate friends who are loyal and when I was a boss i valued it greatly in my staff
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    • March 14, 2014 / 6:21 pm

      Thanks Aly x

  8. March 14, 2014 / 1:32 pm

    What a lovely post. Loyalty is really important to me too, but I wont back down on principles just to be loyal to a friend either. A loyal friend will respect that too.

    Sorry to hear you’ve been having a hard time of it.
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    • March 14, 2014 / 1:05 pm

      Thank you Kim

  9. March 14, 2014 / 9:49 am

    It’s often in tines of stress and when things are very hard that we discover who our true friends really are-it might be a cliche to say but that doesn’t make it any the less true.
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  10. The Reading Residence
    March 14, 2014 / 6:48 am

    A beautiful tribute to your parents, family and friends. So sorry to hear of your ill-health. Must be incredibly tough, so must mean so much to have loyalty and friendship surrounding you. You do know who your friends are when times are hard. I identify with your point about knowing you were loved as a child, as I do think that makes you stronger and respectful of loyalty.
    Thanks so much for sharing and joining in with #WotW

    • March 14, 2014 / 6:51 am

      My pleasure so important I say thank you

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