Today – How to be a calm parent
How to be a calm parent
Learning how to be a calm parent is something every parent I know aspires too. But oh it really is not very easy, is it? Family life can feel like utter chaos and can seem non-stop, disorganised and messy. I think everyone needs a little help in this area.
I do hope this blog post helps you gain the clarity you need to streamline and calm down your family life. I have also included a great planner and further reading as additional resources to help you.
Learning how to be a calm parent means having to learn to understand kids don’t comprehend social rules the same as adults. Parents know how to cope with emotions, and children need to be guided, so let’s ensure we’re doing it the proper way. When kids enter toddler years, most parents struggle to keep their sanity. Toddler to even teenage years are not easy, to say the least. It may seem impossible to stay calm when in the midst of temper tantrums and control issues, no matter the age.
How to Be a Calm Parent by taking action
Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.
Charlotte Brontë – 1816-1855
Life, believe, is not a dream
So dark as sages say;
Oft a little morning rain
Foretells a pleasant day.
Sometimes there are clouds of gloom,
But these are transient all;
If the shower will make the roses bloom,
O why lament its fall?
Life’s sunny hours flit by,
Enjoy them as they fly!
What though Death at times steps in,
And calls our Best away?
What though sorrow seems to win,
O’er hope, a heavy sway?
Yet Hope again elastic springs,
Unconquered, though she fell;
Still buoyant are her golden wings,
Still strong to bear us well.
The day of trial bear,
For gloriously, victoriously,
Can courage quell despair!
As Charlotte Bronte says we might need a big dollop of courage and optimism to quell our anxieties and worries but they are powerful in the face of disquiet and do lead us to calm.
You can do this
It is not easy but it is absolutely do-able to learn to be a calm parent and there are a lot of practical things we can do to help ourselves be calmer today.
Our children are so worth it and we owe it to ourselves too. Calm really is contagious and we will create a calmer home and calmer relationships just by working on ourselves.
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5 Steps on how to be a calm parent – simple tips that really do work
I always think simple tips are the best. The more complicated an issue gets the harder it is to untangle. Calm is more than anything a change of mindset and attention to organisation. Have a look at these tips below on how to be a clam parent and see if you can put them into action. You will be so pleased you did
Preparing for success is how to be a calm parent
Lack of sleep is a huge problem For instance, being tired or lacking sleep can trigger anger towards others. Children know how to test their parents, and if you are struggling with lack of sleep, ask others for help. Being able to squeeze in a nap may be a great start in the quest for how to be a calm parent
For example, if you want to know how to be a calm parent
- Don’t schedule playdates if you or your child are too tired if you have a busy day ahead of you.
- If you have a busy day ahead of you, make sure you get to bed early.
- Some alone time could help you to unwind. Ask family members or hire a sitter for a few hours.
- Do try and get your sleep on track. It can be so difficult if you have a head full of thoughts buzzing around. maybe you could invest in a journal or some worry dolls and empty your had of your concerns before you go to bed at night. A bedtime routine can also be hugely helpful
Have a look a my post on how to unspoil a child to see if this may be of help too
How to be a calm parent? Change your attitude
Changing the way you approach certain actions is key to how to be a calm parent. Not everything your child does is a reflection of your parenting. All children will scream, argue, and test your sanity. As your child grows, so does their development skills and they will need guidance along the way.
The important thing to remember is everything is not happening to you, it’s just the way you react. Try to stay calm and consistent. You can always choose how you respond. A simple pause may be all you need to let your emotions abate and for you to get your sensible head on – the ones that know ou don’t have to personalise everything.
How to be a calm parent – breathe
Try holding up your 10 fingers and imagine them to be candles – breathe in, then one by one slowly blog them out, taking a big deep breath in again before you blog out each one.
Now deal with the issue. It is much easier to stay calm when you have regulated your breathing and taken a pause too. Try it.
You might also like to take a look at my post on how to raise a respectful child.
Having a calmer house and therefore being calm, is to have a structured day. Having a routine helps days to run smoother, for parents and children. If you have an energetic child, be sure their day fits that. If you expect them to have quiet time for most of the day, you will see this doesn’t match their energy levels.
Knowing how to be a clam parent involves really knowing and being empathic to your child and their energy levels
How to be a calm parent- house rules
Having rules that your child understands is important. Make sure that your house is child-safe to ensure the risk of injury is lowered. Some examples of rules include:
- Designated places for food and drinks
- Designated playroom/areas
- How to speak with one another
- Baby safe home
This does not make you an uptight parent what is does if give a safe space which feels calm and respected and win which you can relax knowing some order is in place. Don’t be scared of having rules they really can help things become more zen.
Expectations of being a calm parent
Rethink your expectations: Unfortunately, this isn’t a one and done change. Your child is always growing and furthering in development, and your expectations of them will also change. It’s easy to get caught up into thinking your child may be capable of controlling their actions, but all things must be learned. Children learn by what they see, so lead by example.
Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.
Having a great planner helps you learn how to be a calm parent
Having a really great plan really can help you on your quest How to be a calm parent. I have recently been reviewing the daily goal setter planner from Mal Paper. Not only is it a thing of beauty but it has also absolutely stepped my organisation up. Being organised works wonders for helping me to feel calm.
Mal Paper has created a daily goal setter journal of the loveliest quality it has space for daily affirmations, rating your day, gratitude and goals. It has daily, weekly monthly goal planning areas, marvellous quotes and fabulous review prompts. It is pretty perfect Have a look here for more details on this fabulous Daily Goal Setter planner.
The key to knowing how to be a calm parent
Parenting is a lot of trial and error. Not all kids are the same, so disciplining and guiding will look different for every circumstance. Learning how to be a calm parent will make things go a little smoother. As parents, we certainly help them to develop, but we have to also accept where they are as well.
Being organised and clear seems to be the key in the quest how to be a calm parent. You may also want to take a look at these stress management activities
“Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we’re peaceful, life will be peaceful.”
I do hope you have enjoyed this post on how to be a calm parent.
Further reading on how to be a calm parent
I hope you will find that these further reading suggestions help you delve a little deeper into how to be calmer and to raise calm kids
Peace of mind – a book of calm
Free guided relaxation: Rising Above
“To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.”
Quotes on how to be a calm parent
Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.
“The day she let go of the things that were weighing her down, was the day she began to shine the brightest.” —Katrina Mayer
“There are times when we stop, we sit still. We listen and breezes from a whole other world begin to whisper.” —James Carroll
“Simply let experience take place very freely, so that your open heart is suffused with the tenderness of true compassion.” —Tsoknyi Rinpoche
In the midst of any stressful situation, say or think a series of statements such as, Stay calm. . . everything’s okay. . . you’ve handled worse before. . . relax and take a deep breath. . . take it step by step and don’t rush. . . I can get help if I need it. Amy E. Dean
And it is the mind that can learn to stay calm, resourceful, compassionate, and effective. Everything depends on our state of mind – the one thing in life we can do something about. Eknath Easwaran, Strength in the Storm
True confidence is not reliant on the opinions of others and instead it comes from an inner knowing that you are able to handle things in your life in a calm and relaxed way that will lead to the successful results you want. Ben Samson, Confidence Boosting Secrets
Create your own calm
Knowing how to be a calm parent involves teaching kids to create their own calm – my latest books deals with just that. Create Your Own Calm can be ordered now
Over to you – do you know how to be a calm parent?
As always I do love to hear from you, my readers. What do you do to make yourself feel calmer – could you share your ideas with us please in the comment section below. We all need to know how to be a calm parent and sharing is always good
Knowing how to be a calm parent is so important and deserves our focus and attention