Are you wondering how to be a calm parent?
Learning how to be a calm parent is something every parent I know aspires too. But oh it really is not very easy, is it? Family life can feel like utter chaos and can seem non-stop, disorganised and messy. I think everyone needs a little help in this area. I do hope this blog post helps you gain the clarity you need to streamline and calm down your family life. I have also included a great planner and further reading as additional resources to help you.
Learning how to be a calm parent means having to learn to understand kids don’t comprehend social rules the same as adults. Parents know how to cope with emotions, and children need to be guided, so let’s ensure we’re doing it the proper way. When kids enter toddler years, most parents struggle to keep their sanity. Toddler to even teenage years are not easy, to say the least. It may seem impossible to stay calm when in the midst of temper tantrums and control issues, no matter the age.
Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.
It is not easy but it is absolutely do-able to learn to be a calm parent and there are a lot of practical things we can do to help ourselves be calmer today.
5 Steps on how to be a calm parent – simple tips that really do work
Prepare for success: Not being 100 per cent there is a big step. For instance, being tired or lacking sleep can trigger anger towards others. Children know how to test their parents, and if you are struggling with lack of sleep, ask others for help. Being able to squeeze in a nap may be a great start.
Don’t schedule playdates if you or your child are too tired if you have a busy day ahead of you.
If you have a busy day ahead of you, make sure you get to bed early.
Some alone time could help you to unwind. Ask family members or hire a sitter for a few hours.
Change in attitude: Changing the way you approach certain actions is key on how to be a calm parent. Not everything your child does is a reflection of your parenting. All children will scream, argue, and test your sanity. As your child grows, so does their development skills and they will need guidance along the way. The important thing to remember is everything is not happening to you, it’s just the way you react. Try to stay calm and consistent.
Designed structure: Having a calmer house and therefore being calm, is to have a structured day. Having a routine helps days to run smoother, for parents and children. If you have an energetic child, be sure their day fits that. If you expect them to have quiet time for most of the day, you will see this doesn’t match their energy levels.
House rules: Having rules that your child understands is important. Make sure that your house is child-safe to ensure the risk of injury is lowered. Some examples of rules include:
Designated places for food and drinks
Designated play room/areas
How to speak with one another
Baby safe home
Rethink your expectations: Unfortunately, this isn’t a one and done change. Your child is always growing and furthering in development, and your expectations of them will also change. It’s easy to get caught up into thinking your child may be capable of controlling their actions, but all things must be learned. Children learn by what they see, so lead by example.
Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.
Having a great planner
Having a really great plan really can help you on your quest How to be a calm parent. I have recently been reviewing the daily goal setter planner from Mal Paper. Not only is it a thing of beauty but it has also absolutely stepped my organisation up. Being organised works wonders for helping me to feel calm. Mal Paper have created a daily goal setter journal of the loveliest quality it has space for daily affirmations, rating your day, gratitude and goals. It has daily, weekly monthly goal planning areas, marvellous quotes and fabulous review prompts. It is pretty perfect Have a look here for more details on this fabulous Daily Goal Setter planner.
The key to being a calm parent
Parenting is a lot of trial and error. Not all kids are the same, so disciplining and guiding will look different for every circumstance. Learning how to be a calm parent will make things go a little smoother. As parents, we certainly help them to develop, but we have to also accept where they are as well.
Being organised and clear seems to me the key to calm.
“Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we’re peaceful, life will be peaceful.”
I do hope you have enjoyed this post on how to be a calm parent.
Further reading on how to be calmer
I hope you will find that these further reading suggestions help you delve a little deeper into how to be calmer and to raise calm kids
Peace of mind – a book of calm
Free guided relaxation: Rising Above
“To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.”
Over to you
As always I do love to hear from you, my readers. What do you do to make yourself feel calmer – could you share your ideas with us please in the comment section below.