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Sibling Love & How to Encourage It – 7 Top Tips

How to Encourage Sibling Love – so important for a harmonious home.

 

 

How to encourage sibling love

How to Encourage Sibling Love

 

How to encourage Sibling love and why it matters

Be nice to your siblings, they’re your best link to your past and the most likely to stay with you in the future. – Baz Lurhmann ( writer and director)

Our spouses arrive comparatively late in our lives; our parents eventually leave us. Our siblings may be the only people we’ll ever know who truly qualify as partners for life.”
Kluger, The New Science of Siblings (July 10, 2006), TIME Magazine.

Siblings relationships matter – now and in the future and sibling love is important to foster.

Raising kids who know how to be kind to each other matters hugely . Sibling Love can be a beautiful thing. Have a look at my TEDx talk to find out more about how to do this.

 

 

 

Sibling Love makes every home happier

Good sibling relationships increase the happiness of the whole family and calm the home! Sibling love is definitely worth encouraging

During recent days your kids will have spent an intense amount of time together and they may well have had more than their usual disagreements. Here are some tip on how to help siblings get along – to make life more pleasant for us all!

You may also like a look at my post on siblings without rivalry for more top tips. Sibling love makes for a happy home so find out here how to stop siblings fighting

 

Sibling love – definition of sibling

According to Wikipedia a sibling is one of two or more individuals having one or both parents in common – however, for the purpose of this article, it is all about 2 or more kids living together in the same home.

 

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Why siblings sometimes struggle to get along

Getting along with siblings can be really tough for two reasons

1)     They have no choice but to share things: toys, choices, attention, time, their parents

2)     They haven’t chosen their siblings, so unlike friends, if they don’t get on with them they are pretty they are still much stuck with them, at least until they leave home.

Nightmare.

No, no not really!

Sibling love is awesome – siblings can be the biggest, cheerleaders and allies and they could well end up being each other’s best friends

 

Why we need to encourage sibling love  – The science bit

Research has discovered that by the time children are 11, they have devoted about 33% of their free time to their siblings – more time than they spend with friends, parents, teachers or even by themselves-

Scientists believe that it is the relationships with our siblings that really form us – so it’s really important to try and help your kids have a good relationship!

 

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How to encourage sibling love and help sibling love flourish – 7 top tips

  • Encourage them to support each other –  have one help them with their homework, show them how to get a ball in a hoop or crochet, The older child will more naturally be the shower but try and reverse this regularly and have the younger one show them how to build a great den for example.

 

  • Encourage them to do fun things together – like board games  ( put them on the same team and make it a game of luck rather than skill so the older child doesn’t get frustrated) baking is another nice thing to have siblings do together assigning jobs to each. Their joint pride in their creation will be bonding.

 

  • Encourage them to empathise – help them to try and understand how it feels to be older/younger/missing that one best friend and encourage them to give them some TLC in the form of hugs /cards etc. It goes a long way does empathy and some kids need showing how to express it.

 

  • Encourage communication – Use meal times to encourage siblings to share what’s going on in their lives ( you too) so don’t take just each other for granted or ignore each other.

 

  • Insist they respect each other’s space. Make it explicitly clear they don’t read their sibling’s diary, wear their clothes or use their toothbrush. Respecting each others space is all about respecting each other.

 

  • Encourage them to appreciate their difference – they might have been raised the same and share you as parents but they are absolutely individual. Encourage them to appreciate their differences to each other and value them, rather than being annoyed by them. Explain to them that after all, it wouldn’t be great if they both wanted the last peanut butter cookie would it!

A key thing to teach your child is this  ….. in all relationships, you normally get what you give  so they need to try being a fabulous sibling and show some sibling love and just see what happens

 

 

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How to help siblings get along –   Some activities that help sibling love blossom

 

  • Send them on a timed scavenger hunt but working together against you or the clock rather than on opposite teams.

 

  • Have them build a den together

 

  • Encourage them to put together a care package or an older relative working together on what to put inside

 

  • Help them to plant some seeds together, or some little vegetable bulbs, gardening si so soothing and watching their creations flourish will be a joint delight

 

  • Form a family band and all of you play a part

 

  • Have them draw up a list of 10 things they really like about each other in secret then leave it on each others pillow
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How to help siblings get along when they really aren’t feeling the sibling love

Is sibling love a bit scarce in your home right now and is sibling fighting occurring?

One thing that seems to really work when siblings are fighting is to ask them together (once you have heard their versions of the problem) is to say what can solve this, what can make things better? Encouraging them to be solution focussed t rather than dwelling on and repeating their issue is a skill for life and really helpful in all their relationships. have a go I think you might be surprised how well this works (but do always let them have a little vent first!) 

If your kids really aren’t showing much sibling love and really getting along this might reassure you…

‘One of the greatest gifts of the sibling  tie is that while warmth grows over time, the conflicts often fade’ – Jeffrey Kluger

 So just hang in there. In the long run, this will probably be a happy and supportive relationship.

 

How to Encourage Sibling Love

 

Taking a break from sibling love

Even if your kids completely adore each other – they will need time apart.

We don’t all get along all the time and sometimes we really REALLY need a break from each other.  Kids are the same, siblings especially.

Much as you would like them to play nicely together and have lots of bonding time, that actually, like all of us, kids need time alone and siblings need time apart.

Make sure this is factored where possible into each and every day.  Kids also need time alone with their parents so they feel separate, special and individual. Putting a chosen movie on for one, whilst you play cards with the other can work really well – especially if planned in advance, with time equally alloted and agreed by everyone!

 

 

Further reading around sibling love and children’s emotional wellbeing

2 books I have co-written look at relationships and ways in which they can be made happier and more peaceful. Both have lots of activities to help  younger children and teens getting along well with others and boost their own happiness

Create Your Own Happy is a happiness boosting activity book for  ages 7-12

 

create your own happy

 

 

 

Be Happy Be You is a teenage happiness boosting book filled with science, activities and inspirational quotes and yes it also addresses sibling love

 

becky Goddard-ill books, best happiness book

 

My new book create your own kindness also has a big section on how kids can be a kinder sibling and show more sibling love

 

kindness book for RAOK

 

More sibling love resources

 I hope you have found this article on how to encourage sibling love useful you might also like my posts on

Raising a child in a positive environment

Simple ways to make a child feel loved

Love languages for kids – how they can help you bond

 

Quotes about How to encourage sibling love to share with your kids

Having lots of siblings is like having built-in best friends.

Not always eye to eye, but always heart to heart.

Family: where life begins and love never ends.

Because of you, I will always have a friend.

A sister is someone, who loves you from the heart. No matter how much you argue, you cannot be drawn apart.

“Help your brother’s boat across, and your own will reach the shore.” – Hindu Proverb

 

 

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Quotes on sibling love

 

  1. “Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring.” — Pamela Dugdale
  2. “A sibling is both your mirror – and your opposite.” — Elizabeth Fishel
  3. “Having lots of siblings is like having built-in best friends.” — Kim Kardashian
  4. “We may look old and wise to the outside world. But to each other, we are still in junior school.” — Charlotte Gray
  5. “Siblings: children of the same parents, each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together.” — Sam Levenson
  6. “The mildest, drowsiest sister has been known to turn tiger if her sibling is in trouble.” — Clara Ortega
  7. “A sibling may be the keeper of one’s identity, the only person with the keys to one’s unfettered, more fundamental self.” — Marian Sandmaier
  8. “Brothers aren’t just family; they’re the ones who give you the courage to be yourself.” — Anonymous
  9. “Sisters are different flowers from the same garden.” — Anonymous
  10. “What’s the good of living if you don’t try a few things?” — Kurt Vonnegut
  11. “Your siblings are the only people who know what it’s like to grow up in your house.” — Betsy Cohen
  12. “A brother is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit.” — Anonymous
  13. “Sisters are like flowers in the garden of life.” — Anonymous
  14. “A sibling relationship is often the longest relationship you have in your life.” — Anonymous
  15. “There’s no better friend than a sister. And there’s no better sister than you.” — Anonymous
  16. “A sister is both your mirror—and your opposite.” — Elizabeth Fishel
  17. “Because I have a brother, I’ll never be alone.” — Anonymous
  18. “I grew up with a great deal of love and support from my family and my siblings. We didn’t have much money, but we had each other.” — Sheryl Crow
  19. “Brothers and sisters may fight, but a true sibling bond is eternal.” — Anonymous
  20. “Siblings: your only enemies you can’t live without.” — Anonymous

These quotes beautifully capture the unique and strong bond between siblings, blending humor, warmth, and love.

 

How to Encourage Sibling Love – over to you 

Tell me about your kids – do they find sibling love easy? And what about you? how did you get on with your sibling?

 

You might also like my post on how to raise kind kids

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