Today – How to find the silver lining
You got to look on the bright side, even if there ain’t one.
Life is full of ups and downs- there’s no denying that and when you’re in a situation where everything seems to be going wrong, you probably want to just get into bed and stay there for days until a magical solution appears- but you definitely also know that it isn’t going to happen right?
It is up to us to change our life
It is up to us to change our lives. It always has been and it always will be. Gosh, what a big lesson this has been for me to learn. Once we stop being children it really is all down to us. I have found this a very, very hard lesson to learn. Whether by thoughts or by the action we have to drag ourselves push ourselves and encourage ourselves towards positivity especially when life seems to be at it’s greyest.
Finding the positives is not just the domain of the inherently optimistic. It does not depend on the genetics of a ‘sunny nature’. It absolutely can be a learned skill that anyone can pick up with some thought, reflection then action.
Are you ready to change your life for the better by changing how you look at things? I would guess that if you are reading this then our answer will be a resounding YES – I want that!
It could be one of the most important things you ever learn – if nothing else it will make you so much more resilient.
Here’s how to handle those rather tough situations better- by knowing how to look for the silver lining, and making the best of your life.
Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.
How to find the silver lining
So what is a silver lining? Well its the bright side of a darker cloud. It is so important ot seek and find that bright side – no matter what…..
Look at the bright side of life and choose to be happy. Yes, it is a matter of choice. When negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them, substitute them with happy thoughts.
Look for the Positive in everything you do
Easier said than done right? Trying to look at the positive side of a situation may seem downright impossible, but it actually isn’t. Instead of letting the bad situation tear you down and render you helpless, let it frame you into something bigger. Dig for the positive side of the situation- you always always will find one- probably more. Practising gratefulness daily, even if it seems forced for a while, is one of the best ways to beat negativity, disappointment and judgement.
Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.
Treat it as a Chance to Reevaluate
Sometimes, being affected by a crisis can push you into re-evaluating your life, and once you actually start doing it, you’ll notice how much things can work in your favor. So be it a fight with a friend or a family member, or being stuck in a crappy job- spend some time re-evaluating the basics of your life. Is this what you really want? Does this really make you happy? Is this where you see yourself in the next 5 years? Asking yourself these questions will help you make the right decisions.
The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word ‘crisis.’ One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware of the danger–but recognize the opportunity.”
What Else Now?
Whenever you’re stuck in a bad situation or somewhere you don’t like- ask yourself this- now that I have this, how can I make the best out of it? Include this practise in your daily life, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you emerge victorious out of a seemingly difficult situation. Think of yourself as a cook, and that the situation you’re in are your ingredients. How can you make the best use of the ingredients that you have to put forth a wonderful metaphorical dish that is your life?
“Your desire to change must be greater than your desire to stay the same.” — Unknown
Is it an Opportunity?
When things seem to be going downhill, take a step back and observe the situation from a distance. Do you find an opportunity hidden somewhere in there? A little something that will help you grow? Or maybe something that allows you to do something you weren’t able to do earlier? Take some time to think over how the situation that you seem to be stuck in actually has some hidden gems in the form of opportunities that you can use to your benefit.
“You can’t outwit fate by standing on the sidelines placing little side bets about the outcome of life… if you don’t play you can’t win.” – Judith McNaught
Remember your Power & look for that silver lining
No matter how bad the situation seems, remember that you always have the power to change it. A lot of us tend to blame the people around us when things go wrong, or some higher power that we believe in, but in reality, we are, more often than not, at least partially in control of our situation.
So if you’re feeling unhappy or sad, remember that you yourself, have the power to change it or at least how you feel about it. You know how to find the silver lining – now do it!
Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power. -Seneca
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Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.